“I Don’t Like That Person”


Al-Hijr [15: 47] - Purification of The Heart - The Rhazes

Al-Hijr [15: 47] : And we shall remove from their breasts any deep feeling of bitterness (that they may have). (So that they will be like) brothers facing each other on thrones.


Explanation of the verse, copied from a Malay book:

Ayat ini menyatakan tentang keadaan ahli syurga yang sedang menikmati keindahan hidup di syurga yang selamat dan aman damai seperti yang dinyatakan dalam dua kalimah akhir ayat sebelumnya (سلام ءامنين)

Dalam ayat ini juga Allah menggambarkan keselamatan dan kedamaian iaitu Allah mencabut perasaan hasad dengki daripada hati penduduk syurga (الغِلّ).

Majoriti ahli Tafsir menafsirkan perkataan الغِلّ ini sebagai (الحقد والضغينة والعداوة) iaitu kedengkian, kebencian dan permusuhan yg berada dalam hati manusia.

At Tabari (m.310H) meriwayatkan daripada Abu Umamah bahawa apabila ahli syurga bertemu sesama mereka, Allah mencabut daripada hati-hati mereka rasa dengki dan permusuhan yang ada ketika mereka berada di dunia. Mereka dimasukkan ke dalam syurga dalam keadaan bersaudara yang saling menyayangi, kasih mengasihi tanpa sebarang dengki, tamak dan sifat-sifat buruk yang lain.


I personally love the meaning of this verse, hoping that Allah will remove hatred from our hearts and any sense of injury.

Human being has flaws. I myself can’t deny the fact that when I was a bit younger, there’s someone that I ‘don’t like’ because of this person character. (Hate is a strong word, let’s just use ‘don’t like.’) Years later I made dua may Allah remove all hatred in my heart. Alhamdulillah I don’t dislike that person anymore. I just need to accept this person character – that’s the way that person is.

And today, I still make dua may Allah remove all hatred in our heart, and give us a sound heart.

It is also recommended for those who have jealousy towards other people to make an effort to recite this verse ritually until the enmity disappears. What I realized with my surrounding is, when people jealous towards each other, they don’t even realize that they are being jealous. And this could happen towards family members (siblings, cousins, relatives, etc.) or friends, neighbors etc.

If you don’t like someone for no reason, it could be that you have jealousy. This person had never wronged you, nor he or she has a defect character that bothers you. It could be that you just don’t like the fact that this person is blessed with something that you want, but you haven’t get it – but you don’t realize the fact that you’re in jealousy.

Hatred is one of the diseases in human’s heart that must be cured. It could be that people hate other people because of their success, or any goodness that god rewards them.

I refer to the book Purification of the Heart: Signs, Symptoms and Cures of the Spiritual Diseases of the Heart, translated by Hamza Yusuf. In this book, for the Hatred disease, the solution offered is:

“The cure for hatred is straightforward. One should pray for the person toward whom he feels hatred; make specific supplication mentioning this person by name, asking God to give this person good things in this life and the next. When one does this with sincerity, hearts mend.

If one truly wants to purify his or her heart and root out disease, there must be total sincerity and conviction that these cures are effective.”


May Allah remove all hatred in our heart, and give us the ability to meet Him in the Day of Judgement with a sound heart.


Surah As-Shu’ara [26: 88-89] - Purification of The Heart - The Rhazes

Surah As-Shu’ara [26: 88-89] : The Day whereon neither wealth nor sons will avail, Except him who comes to Allah with a clean heart.


Thus, I conclude my thoughts in the issue of Jealousy with a hadith:-


“The Prophet once said to his Companions, “Do you want to see a man of Paradise?” A man then passed by, and the Prophet said, “That man is of the people of Paradise.” One of Companion of the Prophet wanted to find out what it was about this man that earned him such a commendation from the Messenger of God , so he decided to spend some time with this man and observe him closely. He noticed that this man did not perform the night prayer vigil (tahajjud) or do anything extraordinary. He appeared to be an average man of Medina. The Companion finally told the man what the Prophet had said about him and asked if he did anything special. The man replied, “The only thing that I can think of, other than what everybody else does, is that I make sure that I never sleep with any rancor in my heart towards another.” That was his secret.”

Copied from Hamza Yusuf, Purification of the Heart: Signs, Symptoms and Cures of the Spiritual Diseases of the Heart


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