Al-An’am [6: 32]: And the life of this world is nothing but play and amusement. But far better is the house in the Hereafter for those who are Al-Muttaqun. Will you not then understand?
Mus’ab bin Sa’d narrated from his father that a man said:
“O Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him)! Which of the people is tried most severely?” He said: “The Prophets (peace be upon him), then those nearest to them, then those nearest to them. A man is tried according to his religion; if he is firm in his religion, then his trials are more severe, and if he is frail in his religion, then he is tried according to the strength of his religion. The servant shall continue to be tried until he is left walking upon the earth without any sins.”
(Jami` at-Tirmidhi, Vol. 4, Book 36, Hadith 96)
For this topic, I had a thought on writing an Ultimate Guide of Healing from Sadness. This could be amounting to thousands of words in which I really really hope it could be a means of help to those suffering from deep depression to the extent that suicide had crossed their mind. However, since this would take a lot of time and effort to put it up into writing, plus I’m currently working on writing a book, therefore at the moment I will share one tiny part from the free eBook that can be downloaded from this website.
The eBook explains on the Quranic and Prophetic medicine of curing the heart from anger and sadness. For this article, I copied the one tiny part which explains about shifting your attention from the thing that makes you sad to another thing that you can be grateful with.
Additional Grateful Tips #2:-
I was watching a reality TV show in which there was an overweight woman, weighing to more than 600 pounds trying to lose weight by making an operation.
At first, the doctor said she can’t undergo the operation until she first loses 50 pounds. The doctor then gave advice on calories intake that she could take in a day and a daily walking exercise.
Following the advice, she did lose 50 pounds and undergo the operation. The operation cut parts of her stomach so that she cant consume a large amount of food in the future, like she used to.
However, she experienced emotional breakdown after the operation. Due to that reason, she can’t lose 30 pounds every month after the operation as suggested by the doctor. It was easy for her to lose 50 pounds before the operation, but not anymore after the operation due to the emotional breakdown she was feeling.
The doctor then suggested this woman to meet the clinical psychologist.
What amazed me is just the suggestion by that psychologist. This psychologist asked the overweight woman to shift her attention to something that she is grateful with. (Remember the reminder given by Musa a.s to the grieving parents? – Be grateful – We have explained this in the eBook.)
So, the woman immediately mentioned her husband who continuously helped her throughout the hardship she was going through. He was there, accompanying her moving to Texas from California so that they can be closer to the doctor. He was always there helping her preparing the food, helping her to get up and so on and so forth.
The psychologist suggested her to keep focusing on this instead of her feelings. So this woman decided she wanted to make her husband happy. Now she is the one who prepares the food instead of her husband. They went on a date that they haven’t done for years because of her inferior feelings toward her body.
In addition, this woman started to meet the hair stylist to work on her hair, something that she never cares about for years because of her body. She did that for her husband.
And after that, they went to the studio photographer to have their photos taken together.
This woman was not depressed anymore. Just by shifting her attention to ONE thing around her that she is grateful with, despite her still overweight 400++ pounds at that time…
This works well for a married person. For a single person, don’t worry about it. Just think of something else that you could be grateful with.
Another example, if you’re jobless, think of a value that you could offer to for others. Be grateful with the thing you’re good at and think how you could help others with the skills that you have.
Or if you have any other problem that we didn’t discuss in the eBook, just think of ONE thing that you’re grateful for and try to expand it just like this woman.
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